PT 3. 7 Things to look for in a woman that will keep you from regretting you chose her
The last of a 3 part series…. The most important part
Guidance to a young man who wants direction when choosing his life partner
6. You want someone that knows how to TAKE CARE OF HERSELF. Someone that knows what’s required to keep themselves happy and healthy. Be interested in how often they go to the doctor, pamper themselves, and invest in their appearance. Does she know what’s required to make herself feel good and beautiful? Also as you should know, taking care of yourself is not only addressing the physical or superficial needs but it is investing and addressing your internal needs. The needs that influence your mind and soul, not just the body. When she’s at a crossroad and needs to make a wise decision, who does she go to for counsel? Does she go to therapy, how does she comfort herself when she’s in emotional pain or stress, Is she overly critical of herself, how does she handle her anger, Is she quick to forgive herself and others, does she know when she’s doing too much and just needs to relax. Do her decisions prove that she values peace not problems? Believe it or not, these people do exist and if there’s something she lacks in her ability to take care of herself you should know and then teach her but make sure it’s with someone who is willing to learn. I know often you don’t hear of men encouraging other men to pursue a woman who knows how to take care of herself and it sounds contradictory but it’s not. What I'm describing isn't a hyper independent woman, it's someone who took the time to know and invest in themselves.…..If you find a woman who knows how to take care of herself odds are she feels good about herself, if a woman FEELS good then she does good things, which in turn makes her more of a good and valuable asset to your life.
7. Fellas when I say this I really mean it. The most important point of them all is that she has an actual relationship with God. I’m not talking about a “Holy Roller” or “Super Saint” or someone that’s under the impression that knowing God makes you perfect. No, I’m referring to someone who has been through real life and acknowledges that they don’t look like the hell they've been through because of Him. It's nothing like having a partner that has and is overcoming some stuff with God . A woman that prays for you is a different kind of love, covering and loyalty. When both of you have a relationship with him it fosters a type of intimacy that’s unique and necessary. Especially when life throws difficultly your way when you both are in relationship with him instead of those moments causing strife and conflict, it yields growth, unity and love. When your partner knows God your life is just easier and he can communicate to her in a way you can’t because that’s his daughter and he loves her more than you do. I know I’m not perfect enough for someone to love me for the rest of their life without having God involved. God gives me security in my relationships and that’s a must. You need something other than emotions to anchor you in a forever relationship like marriage. You need the security of their commitment to God. So I hope you take this advice I’ve given you King to build a life you love and enjoy. Blessings 🙏🏿